How Do You Change the Way You Think?





Cognitive-behavioral therapy is a type of therapy that teaches patients new ways to process their thoughts, and in turn, new ways to behave in this world.

The idea is that once you change poor thinking habits, you will in turn, alter poor behavioral routines.

This Method Relates to Spirituality

Romans 12:2 (NLT) suggests that you "[d]o not copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will learn to know God’s will for you, which is good and pleasing and perfect.”

Scripturally, God communicates that you can make changes to your thought process and those changes to your thoughts will also affect your behavior because you will be speaking positively as well.

Say, for instance, you want to alter fearful thought patterns.

II Timothy 1:7 (NLT) reads, “For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.” (Some translations replace “self-discipline” with “a sound mind.”)

I offer that if scripture is a driving principle in your spiritual walk, that you use it as the foundation of change in your thoughts and behavior, and use the psychological method of cognitive-behavioral therapy (or a fitting alternative) to help you to implement the change.


Consider the Process


Desired change: Eliminate negative self-talk by adopting healthier thoughts.

The desired change here is twofold:

  1. Make thoughts healthier and

  2. Make positive statements to yourself

Scriptural foundation: Philippians 4:8 (NLT) and Matthew 12:34b (KJV)

Unhealthy thought & statement: A woman thinks that she is ugly, and in turn, she tells herself that she is ugly.

Altered thought & statement: This same woman begins to see herself as beautiful and she begins to tell herself that she is beautiful.

Resulting behavior/action: Ultimately, as this woman consistently thinks positively and says positive words to herself, she will begin to step out into the world with greater self-confidence.

Anytime you initiate an activity that will alter the way you think, feel, or behave, you are embarking on a process of change.

When you are deliberate, you can monitor progress towards change, and even regression from change. This allows you to make necessary adjustments instead of becoming discouraged and giving up.




5 Steps Towards Thinking and Speaking Positively:

Step 1:
“I want to change the way that I think about myself, and in turn adopt a healthier way of speaking to myself because I deserve to love who I am. I want to love me even if no one else does.”

Step 2:
“According to the word of God, I can “[f]ix my thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable.” I can “[t]hink about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.” When God created me, He created a good thing (I Timothy 4:4). I say things that are stored in my heart (Matthew 12:34b), so in my heart I must believe that God created a good thing when He created me and that I am capable of concentrating my thoughts on things that are delightful. This will help me to say more positive things to myself.”

Step 3:
“I want to think of myself as being a beautiful woman both internally and externally.”

Step 4:
“I am beautiful both inside and out.”

Step 5:
Recite the statement you wrote in “Step 4” everyday, as often as you need to.





How This Might Look Written Out?

Step 1:
“I want to change the way that I think about myself, and in turn adopt a healthier way of speaking to myself because I deserve to love who I am. I want to love me even if no one else does.”

Step 2:
“According to the word of God, I can “[f]ix my thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable.” I can “[t]hink about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.” When God created me, He created a good thing (I Timothy 4:4). I say things that are stored in my heart (Matthew 12:34b), so in my heart I must believe that God created a good thing when He created me and that I am capable of concentrating my thoughts on things that are delightful. This will help me to say more positive things to myself.”

Step 3:
“I want to think of myself as being a beautiful woman both internally and externally.”

Step 4:
“I am beautiful both inside and out.”

Step 5:
Recite the statement you wrote in “Step 4” everyday, as often as you need to.


This is only one example of how you can create a system that will help you to adopt more positive cognitions and new ways to process your thoughts. Implement these changes, and in the long run, you will be thinking and speaking positively.

Please note: This activity does not replace professional therapy. If you feel confused, overwhelmed or you’re in a bad situation, please find a therapist in your area.




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